Within this course, the nature of the spell is uncovered in rich detail. You will see how the spell was cast. You will see the effects it’s had on you. You will also see the way to break the spell within these lessons.

You will complete five quests, each with their own tasks. It will be painful at times, and you will cry many tears. But it will be worth every minute. We are going to use the powerful counter spell to set you free.

In each lesson of this course is an aspect of the spell you may not have considered before. Each lesson also lights the way forward, using all four steps of the counter spell. We will uncover, bridge, strengthen, and self-nourish in all five quests.

When she was born, her mother, Leonie the Strong looked at her with love in her heart. The love spilled out into her eyes and was upon her face for all to see. Her father Kevin the Unsure, loved her also and showed his love by working hard, for that was all he knew.

This is where we learn about the spell casters and start to see them as people, lessening their spell on us.

This is where we start to loosen the ties of the spell.

We begin to create the counter spell

continuing our counter spell

The final step to creating the counter spell.

In this section we learn how the spell has made us act and how we can learn new ways to act.

In this section we learn how the spell has made us act and how we can learn new ways to act.

This is where we discover and uncover who the spell has caused us to become.

Now we can begin to work with some new roles

Now we can begin to define more fully the roles you use under the spell that was cast upon you.

Now we can begin to work further with some new roles

This quest comprises five tasks, some small, some large. Each task will bring you a step closer to becoming your unfettered self. Casting off the spell and creating a counterspell is exhilarating, and can be terrifying. There are monsters and Taniwha on the way. They do not want you to succeed. But you will succeed, because you have unimaginable strength.

In the next task you are going to examine your central organising factor. This may sound like a scary piece of jargon, but it’s ok, I’m going to explain. This means knowing what drives you; understanding your values.

Now we are going to work out how you measure those values. This is something I learned to do recently, and it revolutionised my life (thank you Mark Manson, my idol). When the measures we use to value our experiences and interactions meet our expectations, we are happy and loved. When they don’t, life is crappy and hard.

When you were growing up, you learned ethics from those around you. This started at home when you were little. Ethics take on a different flavour in most families with addictions.

This is where we crate tangible goals so we can reverse the spell set upon us.

We might be used to giving more than the other person, but it doesn’t have to stay like that.

We learn to stay because we learn what it means to belong.

Rules are what keeps any society going. We need rules. Even in a family there are rules. In a family with addiction the rules become less about life and more about survival. This quest has only two tasks. I won’t lie to you, they are hard. The spell has made us unfeeling, untrusting and silent. But you are not alone.

As a child of a family with addiction, a huge part of protecting yourself is to shut down your feelings. It doesn’t have to stay this way.

Learning to regulate yourself is a very powerful part of casting the spell.

Now that you know how to recognise and own your emotions, you are going to learn the secrets of your body and mind, and what they tell you while you sleep.

The next part of the spell we are going to break is the entwined rules of ‘don’t trust’ and ‘don’t speak’. These twin rules work together and are powerful, but once you learn what to do, you can break the spell.

We learn that it’s ok to talk and trust and that this can lead to good boundary making.

Your incredible strength allows you to see violence for what it is and what to do about it.

You can cast a counter spell. You are not six any more; your eyes are opening. How things are today are not how they were when you were a child.

As a spell maker you have unlimited power and a duty to unleash that power on the world. Call upon those within you to strengthen and love yourself.