Welcome to words from my heart to yours
How can I trust you?
I learned early on that I cannot trust anyone.
Not even myself. Especially not myself.
The ‘don’t trust’ rule is a catchall rule that also includes other unspoken rules.
“Don’t make friends outside the family”.
“Nothing is wrong, everything is fine”.
“Do as I say, not as I do”.
Dysfunctional Family Rules
We have three things in play in a dysfunctional family, a tripod of stability. Firstly, we have the basic layer of the drama triangle. Secondly, we have entrenched roles. And finally, we have the dysfunctional family rules to keep us in line.
If we try to change roles or stop playing the drama game there will be pushback as the whole system becomes unstable.
Of course, rules are what keeps any society going. We need rules. Even in a family, there are rules.
Use your voice
Recovery means recovering every aspect of your life that was taken from you. Today we are going to look at recovering your voice.
There is a potent rule of 'don’t speak' within families with addiction.