Before we start
The Spell Uncovered
The First Quest: Know the Spell casters
We get to know the spell casters and change your relationship with them. Examining those who hurt you will give you the power to diminish the hold they have on you. They will become smaller and smaller until you see that they were only people after all. You do not need to love them or forgive them or allow them to hurt you again. It is possible to understand them in the context of their world.
The Second Quest: How the Spell Causes you to act
We are going to use the tasks and worksheets to uncover and rewrite our roles. In any family system we assume certain roles. These roles are a vital part of the spell. As each day goes by, we become more inhibited and wrapped in the cloak of the spell. In this quest we will delve into the roles that kept you alive within the spell but aren’t working any longer. You will write new roles for yourself based on life beyond the spell. And practice them.
The Third Quest: Know What Drives You
Here you will get to know yourself even more. You will discover what drives you, what your values are and whether they are actually yours or part of the spell. Your predominant role (that we uncovered in the second quest) plays a part in what drives you. So do your personal goals and your ideas about mutuality in relationships. Your place in your community is the final piece of the puzzle. You will then distill all this knowledge into a single statement which will reveal your motivation for life.
The Fourth Quest: Rewriting the Rules
We are going to uncover the unspoken rules in any family with an addiction. We will see how these roles affected you as you were growing up and how they affect you today. You will see how the spell has bound you. But don’t worry we aren’t going to stay in that place.
The Fifth Quest: Putting the Violence to Rest
You will see how we are hard wired to protect ourselves. You will learn how to tell the difference between actual and perceived danger. You will see how growing up with violence changes you and how the changes stay with you. You may have suffered, witnessed or inflicted violence - or all of them. You will learn a powerful way to repair the damage.